Actually think before you speak.
Think about what you say before you say it. This is a famous rule that is constantly ignored. I put my foot in my mouth all the time and I bet you do too. It’s usually not a “big” deal, but conflicts and conflicting feelings could easily be avoided with a little thought. We are always saying things that don’t need to be said and not saying things that need to be said. We often have impulsive bursts that can potentially offend and upset the people around us. I have huge respect for people who think before they speak. I’ve known people who literally take a breath before saying something. I can tell they are honestly considering the words that will come. What a great quality to pursue in your own life.
“Few people think more than two or three times a year; I have made an international reputation for myself by thinking once or twice a week.” - George Bernard Shaw
Next time you find yourself in a situation where you think of something and want to blurt it out, stop yourself. Consider how this statement will make you feel and how it will make the people around you feel. More often than not these impulsive conversations are how arguments happen. We think of something and immediately say it. Instead, think first! Take the time. It won’t kill you. Say to yourself, “Well, I could say that… but it might upset that person. Alternatively, I could say it and it won’t upset them, but it will be pointless and I’ll regret it later.” Having patient and honest self-talk with yourself like this can transform your relationship with yourself and others. Sometimes you’ll find silence is the best option. Other times you will discover ways that you have been shortsighted or inconsiderate in the past. No matter what, thinking before you speak is an important lesson. Take it with you today and every day.>