Make your inner dialogue match your outer dialogue.
If you’re like me, you often imagine elaborate fake arguments and rants in your head to relieve stress. Say someone hurts you or damages your pride… Your instinct is to cuss them out behind closed doors. Maybe you pace around your home and find creative and angry ways to counter every argument in this imaginary scenario where you confront them. We all do it (and it provides temporary relief), but is it really helpful?
“Learn this from me. Holding anger is a poison. It eats you from inside. We think that hating is a weapon that attacks the person who harmed us. But hatred is a curved blade. And the harm we do, we do to ourselves.” ― Mitch Albom
I’d like to challenge you to make your inner dialogue match your outer dialogue. Are you planning to yell at everyone who upsets you? No? Then don’t yell at them in your own head. Learn to only say things in your mind that you would say in front of others. If you would feel ashamed to say it out loud, why aren’t you afraid to say it in hiding?
Additionally, make your inner dialogue match your desired lifestyle. Do you want to foster anger and resentment in your heart? No? Then don’t practice hate and intolerance. It doesn’t matter that it’s only in your head. Allow yourself to be angry, upset, or whatever you need to feel, but don’t let it consume you. If you are constantly yelling at people in your head, think about the influence that will have on your life. Remember, you’re creating yourself as you go.>